Health & Medical Self-Improvement

Video Game Addiction, Anthony Weiner and the Addiction Excuse

A local news station is advertising a special feature story about the "epidemic of video game addiction" among teens and adults.
Apparently, according to Philly.
com a 16-year-old boy in Philadelphia admitted to bludgeoning his mother to death after she grounded him from his PlayStation last fall.
So I ask you, did this young man kill his mother because he was "addicted" to playing video games, or did he kill his mother because he chose to kill his mother? Addiction disease proponents would have you believe that there is a line people cross with respect to certain behaviors where they lose the power of choice and literally go mad if they are kept from their addiction.
In keeping with their theory, the 16-year-old boy saw his mother as standing in the way of his addiction so in a fit of craving he killed her so he could once again satiate this irresistible craving.
But as you read the story and hear this young man's confession, you learn that is not what happened at all.
He recounts that they had fought and that she had grounded him from Play Station but he admits to contemplating taking her life for several hours.
He consciously formulated the plan and then implemented it.
It is clear from his account of the killing that whether or not he could play video games was of no consequence.
He was angry with his mother and felt that taking her life was a viable option.
The inherent problem with labeling behaviors such as playing video games, shopping, watching pornography, engaging in sexual activity, drinking alcohol or doing drugs, as being caused by a progressive, incurable disease called addiction is that it renders people victims of a malady that is beyond their control to fix or change, when in fact the only remedy for these problems lies within the individual.
In other words, only the 'addict' has the ability to fix themselves while they are being told they can't.
The conundrum is clear, and has confounded many 'addicts' who cannot reconcile this circular argument.
If I'm powerless over these substances and/or behaviors, then how do I choose not to do them long enough to seek help? And if I'm truly powerless forever, once I've stopped the behavior, how do I stay stopped? Ultimately don't I have to make a choice at some point? Isn't my behavior my responsibility? And if I can't fix myself, then who can fix me; God, my sponsor, my therapist or counselor? When professional golfer, Tiger Woods admitted to having multiple affairs while married to his wife, he quickly checked into rehab for 'sex addiction.
' This man who once ruled the links, a decidedly mental game, succumbed to the all-too-convenient notion that he slept with multiple beautiful women because he did not have control of himself.
And since returning to golf, his game has never been the same.
This leaves us to wonder, did Woods sacrifice his incredible golf game and lucrative career on the altar of the addiction excuse.
Recently Congressman Anthony Weiner of New York got into some hot water by tweeting naked pictures of himself to multiple women including a 17-year-old girl.
After several days of speculation by the media, he resigned and announced he was seeking treatment for his obvious addiction.
The addiction excuse is believable because it's so difficult to comprehend why people would choose such self-destructive behavior.
This is especially true when we see celebrities who are wildly successful fall from grace, such as Woods, Sheen and Lohan to name a few.
They seem to have it all, and they live the life that many of us can only dream about.
Whether their vice is beautiful women, endless partying, shopping, gambling, hoarding, (which according to reality TV can range from having lavish collections to living in filth and squalor,) each of these behaviors is the result of personal lifestyle choices.
Tiger Woods slept with multiple beautiful women because that behavior held value to him; it fit into his lifestyle and provided him some benefit.
And yes, he perceived that the benefits of this behavior were greater than the benefits of staying faithful to his wife and family.
Contrary to popular belief people consciously choose to engage in self-destructive behaviors simply because they choose to; and yes, they can develop a habit surrounding a particular behavior, but just like any habit, each person can break it and build new habits any time they wish.
And, in fact, that is the only way that people can and do change; by making a choice to change, then following through on it.
The process itself can be difficult which is why some people seek professional help, but it can be done.
Lying to people under the guise of helping them, as is the case with the disease theory, has only provided profound confusion and a convenient excuse for poor behavior and failure.

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